Being accepted just the way I am isn’t so SCARY after all…

March 13, 2012 in The Very Few Times I'll Admit to Having a Soul

I don’t remember why I even emailed her in the first place.  Probably just to thank her for being so “real.”

I never expected a reply.

I mean, really?  Like ‘she’ would have time to respond to ‘me’?

But she did.


To say I was shocked is putting it lightly.

I think I got a little dizzy and maybe even blacked-out for a few minutes.

(OK.  Maybe it was the wine.)


Then after a few emails back and forth, I opened one and read these words:

“You should guest post for me sometime.  The door is always open, and you know where to find me!”

(More wineThen a little more.  Oh, hell.  Fine.  It was a lot more.)


After a month or so, I thought…why not?

So, I emailed/pestered/stalked her again.

I told her I have never written for any one or any thing other than my own blog.  She said that wasn’t a requirement.

I told her I was not formally educated in writing.  She said that wasn’t a requirement.

I told her I didn’t have kids.  She said that wasn’t a requirement.

I told her I wasn’t going to HAVE kids.  She said that wasn’t a requirement.

Sweet Jesus, I did my best to find a reason for her to send me on my way!  But no.  She accepted me just the way I am.


A little time passes, I email her a post and was absolutely positive I’d never hear from her again.  Or maybe she’d email back asking that I make tons of changes to it, tell me I’m not funny, tell me to get a life, tell me to shut my blog down immediately.

Something along the lines of, “Oh, I’m sorry…but, you need to go.  Go away.  Far, far away.”

But no.

Instead, I get this:

“I love the way you write — it’s talk-writing, just like me– I always say I’m not a writer and people don’t get it. You do. :)”


Once again, she accepted me just the way I am.

I confess.  Maybe I cried a little.  Maybe.  Nothing sappy or blubbery.  Because I don’t like to cry.  Or I don’t like to admit I cry.

I didn’t think it could get any better at this point.  She liked it and that was totally enough for me.  Actually more than enough.  I expected nothing more.

Then she emailed and asked if she could publish it on her blog on March 13.


I got a little sappy again.

Because the following day would be March 14.

Which is my birthday.

And to be on Jill’s blog would be the absolute best birthday gift ever.

To be acknowledged by her, to be accepted by her and THEN to be splattered on her blog?

Just friggin’ wow.

Best day of my life.

For me, nothing equals love more than simply accepting someone just the way they are.

Not a better version.  Not a lesser version.  Just simply as they are.

And it’s something I do my very best to do every day of my life.  Oh, I fail all the time but then I remind myself of just how un-perfect I am and well…hang my head for a bit.  In shame.

(Because believe me…I am about as un-perfect as they come.  And I’m learning to live with that.)

So, Jill…from the very bottom of my heart, I thank you for accepting me just the way I am and finding me worthy of a spot on your blog.  Should I ever be a smidgen of the talk-writer you are, I will always pass the love along just as you do to your readers.  It does wonders for the soul.

Please consider jumping over to Jill’s blog  – Scary Mommy – to read my post.

(I can assure you I’ll be squeally and all giggly knowing you did.)

And consider clicking on my Amazon thing over there to the right and purchasing her book, Confessions of a ScaryMommy.

I'm miserably proud to wear this...and I'm not even a mommy. But it means a whoooole lot to me for a whoooole different reason.

I’ll finish this up by thanking all of you who are continuously laughing with me, making me laugh, supporting me and most of all…accepting me just the way I am.

It has taken me 43 years to find something I’m passionate about.  And to know each of you find me worthy of reading and are a part of my passion, makes it all that much sweeter.

Jennifer March 13, 2012 at 9:05 am

She’s even more amazing in person.

Carrie March 13, 2012 at 9:08 am

No doubt…that’s totally believable.

Connie Weiss March 13, 2012 at 9:22 am


Carrie March 13, 2012 at 9:27 am

Thanks, girl…and totally missed you last night. I had too much vino but OH MY GOD.

It ended just like I knew it would.

He’s such a pecker. (That’s another old word Iris tossed back into my vocabulary.)

Anne March 13, 2012 at 10:18 am

I read your post on Scary Mommy this morning and had to click over and learn more about you (in a totally non-creepy way). I’m always ridiculously excited to find bloggers who are funny and sassy and single, like me! With no kids, like me! Who will be found dead after three weeks because they live alone, like me! Wait… no, scratch that last one.

At any rate, I have to run off and follow/stalk you on social media.
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Carrie March 13, 2012 at 10:28 am

HAHA!! I totally get that!

And go ahead and be creepy if you want…you know sometimes it’s the creepy-ness in life that gives us single girls stuff to giggle and gossip about!

Jennifer March 13, 2012 at 1:23 pm

I don’t even know you, but I love you just the way you are, too!!! Bring on the creepiness!! Ha! 🙂

Carrie March 13, 2012 at 1:57 pm

Aww…you’re too much! And trust me, if you’ve read even one thing here…you totally know me.

I’m way more “me” here than I am anywhere else.

It’s kinda like my therapy. =)


Scary Mommy March 13, 2012 at 1:39 pm

You make me blush.
I think you’re awesome. Happy, happy, happy almost birthday!!! XOX

Carrie March 13, 2012 at 1:51 pm

That right there totally does it. I’m gonna have to just tell the boss I’m calling it a day.

I’m hugging my monitor. You are simply the best.

Joan@Chocolateandmore March 13, 2012 at 1:43 pm

ok, wanted to comment here before I pop over to this Jill person’s blog. I’m sure she’s wonderful or you wouldn’t care at all about her but never, never think that we all don’t love you for your warts, not in spite of them. You had me with that sassy tiara from the first moment girl! And I love that you’re not perfect and willing to share it with the rest of us that quietly sit in the closet hoping no one will notice that’s where we hid all the crap we don’t want everyone to see.
You make us laugh with you, every time your fingers hit the keyboard. Big hugs my friend, and I AM proud to call you a friend.
And hey, can I borrow the tiara, I wanna be the princess of this closet!

Carrie March 13, 2012 at 1:55 pm

You are sheer love. And I love that.

And I will absolutely share the tiara. Every girl needs a tiara. Mine reminds me of my imperfections and that it’s pretty ok to be imperfect.

Sometimes…it’s even fun. =)

Maggie S. March 13, 2012 at 6:24 pm

WOOHOO!!! Try not to forget the little people.
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Carrie March 13, 2012 at 7:48 pm

Hon, I AM the little people right in the middle! Right smack in the middle. Keeping everyone all riled up, of course.


Melssa Placzek March 13, 2012 at 7:44 pm

YAY! Congrats! 🙂
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Melssa Placzek March 13, 2012 at 7:44 pm

ps…guess who got a Kreativ Blogger Award today? 😉
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Carrie March 13, 2012 at 7:49 pm

I saw that…and am seriously flattered.

You are so good and always so kind to me. Thank you simply doesn’t seem enough!!

So, love…lots and lots of love. =)

Melssa Placzek March 13, 2012 at 7:51 pm

you’re welcome 🙂 xoxo

Holly from 300 Pounds Down March 13, 2012 at 8:05 pm

That’s so awesome. I am so happy for you!!
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Carrie March 13, 2012 at 8:06 pm

Thank you! I’m still on that happy high about it…all giggly and stuff!

Amanda March 13, 2012 at 8:29 pm

Congratulations! And happy birthday!

I knew there was a reason I liked you. It’s because you’re a March baby and my little brother is a March baby and he’s one of my favorite people in the whole world!
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Carrie March 13, 2012 at 8:36 pm

Aww…thank you, sweet girl!! I’ll take that!

(And tell your brother happy birthday from me!)

Bobbi March 14, 2012 at 12:11 am

That is awesome.
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Carrie March 14, 2012 at 6:10 am

Thank you…still giggly and excited about it!

Becca March 14, 2012 at 1:03 am

Congrats on your guest post! Your writing is always amusing so you should definitely be proud of it 🙂
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Carrie March 14, 2012 at 6:12 am

Aww, Becca…you’re too sweet. I appreciate that more than you know!!

Lindseh March 14, 2012 at 3:10 am

That’s how I feel about the Bloggess, if she were to ask me to do such a thing. Followed a link from your comment on her last post, and eager to check out more of your blog!
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Carrie March 14, 2012 at 6:14 am

Isn’t Jenny a friggin hoot!!

That’s big stuff to me hearing that…thank you! I’m tickled you came over here from there!!

Thank you!!

Julie March 14, 2012 at 11:18 am

Love it! Congrats! I think it’s so cool when bloggers support others and so happy that I have found your site thanks to Scary Mommy. You are one talented writer.

Carrie March 14, 2012 at 11:21 am

Oh, Julie…thank you! Those are words that make me all giddy!

And I agree. A little support anywhere in life goes a loooong way!

Carrie's Experimental Kitchen March 14, 2012 at 11:58 am

OMG I LOVE IT! What a great post and HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Look on the bright side, you’re still younger than me (I celebrated 25 years last year! lol) Hope you have a great day! xo
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Carrie March 14, 2012 at 12:46 pm

Thank you so much! And let me tell you…last night I was thinking, “Are you kidding me? 43? I’m not supposed to be anywhere over 35!!”

I’ll just keep telling myself it’s all in my head. =)

Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell March 14, 2012 at 7:47 pm

I just couldn’t be happier for you! Wonderful!
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Carrie March 14, 2012 at 8:36 pm

Thanks…it’s a pretty cool thing for me!! I still get giggly.

The Zadge March 14, 2012 at 7:53 pm

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!! Hope you are celebrating in a BIG TEXAS WAY!
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Carrie March 14, 2012 at 8:37 pm

Thanks, girl!!

And yes…the bigger the better! It’s been fun!

Felicia March 14, 2012 at 9:13 pm

Loved your guest post (knew I would)! But I wonder if that kid got in to UT…?
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Carrie March 15, 2012 at 6:53 am

I know…probably one of life’s mysteries I’ll never know.

But I do hope he did.

Fashionista Era March 15, 2012 at 5:21 am

Hey girl! I LOVED the guest post…oh your hilarious, btw you should write your own book. Im telling you will become a millionaire. Think about it serious hun. I always believe that your strengths should be exploited. Come on, pls pls, think about it. Its so easy to publish it online nowadays.

Mawh…btw belated happy bday darling! wish you a fabulous year ahead..bless you!!
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Carrie March 15, 2012 at 6:55 am

You are too much. A book would be a long-term dream for me…maybe one day but I am having so much fun with this it’s hard to imagine doing anything else!

Maybe one day…=)

LeAnne March 15, 2012 at 9:56 am

You are loved because you are real… and wonderful… and funny.

and wonderful at what you do!!

Congrats sweet lady, well deserved!!
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Carrie March 15, 2012 at 10:39 am

Awww….don’t be trying to get me all weepy!!

Those are some of the best words I’ve ever heard. You totally just put a great spin on an otherwise jerky day.

Thank you! =)

Kristy March 15, 2012 at 5:12 pm

YOU are a ROCK STAR Carrie!!! A. ROCK. STAR!!!!


PS. Guess my post DID hit close to home 😉
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Carrie March 16, 2012 at 8:18 am

Rock star might be stretching it. A tad. OK…a big tad.

But thank you…I’ll take that big compliment any day!!

Maren March 15, 2012 at 7:14 pm

Oh that is so cool!! Go Carrie!!
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Carrie March 16, 2012 at 8:17 am

Thanks…I like having something “cool” in life.

Karyn March 15, 2012 at 7:41 pm

Well DUH… she loved you! Of course she did? Are you telling me I don’t have good taste? 😉 Congrats! xx
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Carrie March 16, 2012 at 8:17 am

Thank you…and I’ve been missing you.

Had to double check your RSS to make sure it was in my Google Reader right and I was getting updates.

(Major hint there. MAJOR.)

Love you, girl…there’s many of us patiently waiting. =)

Jamie March 15, 2012 at 8:56 pm

I LOVE this!! I’m so excited for you! Yes, I laugh with you everytime I read/watch you. So glad to have you as a new friend. 🙂

Hopping over there now to read the post!
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Carrie March 16, 2012 at 8:11 am

I am pretty darn lucky having you, too! And now I get to watch you grow your family!! YAY ME!!

Elaine March 15, 2012 at 10:33 pm

OH girl, SO amazing!! Jill is a true gem. SO sincere and just a beautiful, funny, warm person. I’m so happy to know her. Hopefully you’ll get to hug her in person someday.

Happy (belated) BIRTHDAY!!! I’m off to read your awesome post… 🙂

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Carrie March 16, 2012 at 8:04 am

She’s been pretty friggin awesome, I must say!

Thank you…another year. Another year. =)

Bonnie March 16, 2012 at 9:44 am

That is so awesome! People appreciate “realness.” Also, I love it when people talk-write because it just seems … natural. I hate it when writing seems forced or overly formal like someone is trying too hard because it comes off as fake. Screw that. Just be yourself.
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Carrie March 16, 2012 at 2:59 pm

Totally agree…just keep it real. =)

jennie March 16, 2012 at 2:43 pm

I like you! Normal is overrated!
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Carrie March 16, 2012 at 3:00 pm

Thank you! And yes…normal IS totally overrated!!

Regina March 16, 2012 at 9:09 pm

Great job Carrie! I like how you keep it real. Congrats on the guest post!
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Sushi Vegas March 18, 2012 at 10:00 am

Congratulations for the Happy Ending 😀

Carrie March 18, 2012 at 10:07 am

HAHA!! Thanks!

Sarah March 23, 2012 at 9:21 pm

I remember being excited to connect with Jill too! Great post, looking forward to hearing more :o)

Carrie March 23, 2012 at 9:29 pm

She’s cream of the crop. Good stuff there. =)

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